Relationships often starts with a little bit of a fairytale – the chasing, the sweet talking, the gentlemen getting the car door for the lady and even pulling the chair out for her at dinner. But a very high percentage of that burns away after a few months into a relationship simply because people do not keep up the good work from when they started off.
No one likes to lose in a fight. No one likes being labeled ‘wrong’ but at times giving in is a best solution. It’s natural for couples to fight and argue about the smallest thing every now and then.
People say that women are more sensitive and men always give in – that is complete crap. In reality, it takes two to tango and sometimes, guys are the sensitive ones and girls are the ones that give in but either way, that’s not healthy in a relationship. Many people do not know to act after an argument. Some ended up not talking to each other for days and months and some even lose their friendship over silly arguments.
Controlling yourself is the key to solving an argument. It usually starts off with a small argument and ends up in a big fight. Take charge of the situation and cool things down before it gets into the danger zone. Solve your issues in a civilized manner like adults instead of walking away.
Communication is one of the most important factors in a relationship. Miscommunication happens all the time. Never, I repeat, never base anything on ‘signs’ and assumptions as it will lead to relationship failure. No matter what the issue is, open your mouth and talk to one another. It is better to get everything out in the open than keeping everything to yourself.
Being in a relationship takes a lot of commitment, strength and willpower. First, getting to know each other well is crucial. Putting yourself in a relationship also means you are working for two, planning for two and basically living your life for two. It will not be as easy and carefree as singlehood.
We do everything with our best friends and share everything with them. If you have a problem at home, at work, or even with your relationship, it’s a fact that you will never talk to anyone else except your best friend. They are like the tyres to your car and vice versa.
So, why not treat the person you love like how you treat your best friend? In a relationship, you need to do everything together and tell each other everything. Never keep secrets and don’t betray each other’s trust.
Never give in but never give up either
Sometimes when you are tired of each other’s attitude, all you want to do is give up and move on but ask yourself this question -- “Is it wise to do that?”
Never give in as well because this will result in a ‘relationship imbalance’. It is all about being equal! Never think about empowering your partner. Every couple should respect each other.
Remind yourself of what you first saw in your lover’s eyes. Why did you date him/her? Why did you commit in the relationship? Refresh your memory of the good old days and go back to phase one and work it out from there. Talk to each other like adults.
Marriage – the last step
Marriage is like the final results after the final examinations. Never rush into marriage because you do not want to regret after. Before you say ‘I do’, be very sure that you are marrying your best friend...your soul mate. When you are sure the person standing before you is the one, then you have the green light to build a future together with true love.
The Whether Girl
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